May 2, 2023
Supervised visitation can be a challenging time for children caught in the middle of a custody battle. While supervised visitation is intended to ensure the safety and well-being of the child, it can still have a negative impact on them. Here are some ways that supervised visitation can affect children:
Supervised visitation can have a significant emotional impact on children. They may feel confused, anxious, or depressed, and may struggle to understand why their parents cannot be together. A study by Dr. Richard Warshak found that children in supervised visitation experience a range of negative emotions, including fear, sadness, and anger.
Children may experience changes in behavior during supervised visitation. They may become more withdrawn, aggressive, or rebellious, and may have difficulty concentrating or sleeping. These changes in behavior can be a result of the stress and anxiety they feel during supervised visitation. A study by Dr. Leslie Drozd found that children in supervised visitation had higher levels of stress and lower levels of adaptive coping skills than children who were not in supervised visitation.
Supervised visitation can have a lasting impact on a child's relationships. Children may feel like they cannot trust their parents or may have difficulty forming healthy relationships with others. They may also struggle with feelings of guilt or shame, which can affect their ability to form positive relationships. A study by Dr. Joan B. Kelly found that children in supervised visitation reported feeling a sense of loss and confusion about their relationships with their parents.
Children who experience supervised visitation may have delayed emotional, cognitive, or social development. The stress and anxiety they feel during this time can affect their ability to learn, communicate, and interact with others. A study by Dr. Karen J. Saywitz found that children in supervised visitation may experience delays in social development, including lower levels of empathy and social competence.
It's important for parents to understand the potential impact of supervised visitation on their child and to work together to minimize the negative effects. Here are steps that custodial and non-custodial parents can take to help their child adapt to this new situation and minimize the negative impact on their emotional well-being. Here are some tips:
Custodial and non-custodial parents should be honest with their child about why supervised visitation is necessary. Custodfial P explain that the child's safety and well-being is the top priority, and that the visitation is not a punishment or a reflection of their love for the child.
Creating a consistent routine for supervised visitation can help children feel more secure and comfortable. Parents should agree on a regular visitation schedule and stick to it as much as possible. They should also plan age-appropriate activities that the child will enjoy.
Custodial and non-custodial parents should focus on creating positive memories and spending quality time with their child during supervised visitation. They should engage in activities that the child enjoys and avoid discussing any conflicts or disputes during the visitation.
Parents should communicate with the monitor about any concerns or questions they have about the visitation. They should also ensure that they follow the monitor's instructions and respect their authority.
Custodial and non-custodial parents should seek support from friends, family, or professionals during this challenging time. They may benefit from counseling, therapy, or support groups for co-parenting and child custody.
By following these steps, custodial and non-custodial parents can help their child adapt to supervised visitation and minimize the negative impact on their emotional well-being.
Sources:
Warshak, R. A. (2003). Payoffs and pitfalls of listening to children. Family Relations, 52(4), 373-384.
Drozd, L. M. (2017). Stress and coping in child-parent supervised visitation. Journal of Family Social Work, 20(4), 322-336.
Kelly, J. B. (2004). Children's living arrangements following separation and divorce: Insights from empirical and clinical research. Family Process, 43(1), 61-81.
Saywitz, K. J., Mannarino, A. P., Berliner, L., & Cohen, J. A. (2016). Treatment for sexually abused children and adolescents. American Psychologist, 71(9), 859-875.
